My ex girlfriend is dating someone else

15 Feb

And you're right, it's scary because it doesn't make sense and you don't want to feel this way, but you do, dang it!

Finally, staying away is helpful because it forces you to adjust to not having that person in your life, and helps you feel like you've moved on.

Again though, I am hurting so much it's hard to function.

The sooner you reclaim your balanced brain chemistry, the sooner you’ll be able to adjust to the break-up and move on in a positive direction. Counseling may also help you uncover what’s really going on for you. Counseling can also prepare you for a more functional and fulfilling relationship with an equally self-reflective, well-adjusted woman. When you are flooded with intrusive thoughts about your former love being with another man, instead of assigning emotions to these thoughts and getting caught up in the hurt and distress, become an objective observer. Hit the pause button and think: , it’s natural to feel distraught when you think about her possibly having "great chemistry" with other men.And you know you’ve moved on when you don’t have a painful emotional reaction to the news that your former love has taken up with another. I'm posting it here, along with some ideas for coping with the hurt—and moving on.Comment: Our relationship has been rocky for 6 months but I held on anyways.Why are you thrown for a loop by the news that she is dating others? This can take practice, but you can render these thoughts harmless if you can breathe deeply and think, By maintaining your objectivity for a minute or two, your physiology will calm down if already triggered, and eventually you’ll be able to let those thoughts pass through your brain without being triggered. But don't consider her rejection a dismissal of the chemistry you shared. Also, it’s not as if she stole the great chemistry you shared, and is now enjoying that same chemistry with another man.Over time, you’ll deflate the power these thoughts hold over you, and devoid of any emotional load, they can simply fade away. Engage in fun, interesting, or relaxing activities that occupy your brain or at least put you in a calm or meditative state. The chemistry you shared with her was unique, and can’t be replicated-- by her by you-- with another.