Dating after divorce for christian men

06 Jul

Obviously, when a person who does not have biblical grounds for divorce remarries, he or she is technically committing adultery.

Divorce is rampant in the United States, and it is rampant among Christians and non-Christians alike.

However, I do think physical brutality and abuse, and mental abuse of a nature that endangers the person's mind or body, are clearly grounds for divorce.

The Pauline privilege, which I mentioned earlier, (1 Corinthians ) permits divorce on the grounds of desertion by an unbelieving spouse.

The apostle Paul added to the teachings of Jesus what is called the "Pauline privilege." According to this concept, Paul taught that if an unbelieving spouse leaves a believer, the believer is not bound to the marriage relationship, but is free to remarry" (1 Corinthians ).

And some people recognize such a thing as a "constructive desertion," which would be when a husband so brutalizes his wife that it is impossible to live with him any longer; or when a wife has so harassed, or brutalized her husband that it becomes impossible for him to stay with her.

A minister of God must teach what is in the Bible; yet the teaching must be tempered with the biblical understanding of God's love. Does one, for example, tell a three-times-divorced man to go back to his previous mate? Is it right to ask the remarried couple to make a second divorce and break up a second home?

Finally, in these complex personal matters I recommend prayer, study of the Bible, and that you counsel with a wise and godly pastor in you own community. I do not think mental cruelty is grounds for divorce if mental cruelty concerns the way a mate twists the toothpaste tube or hangs stockings in the bathroom.

That type of mental cruelty has been defined in so many different contexts it has no meaning.

"If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance" (Deuteronomy 24:1-4).

Later on, in the New Testament, when Jesus was asked about divorce, He replied that Moses gave permission to divorce because of the hardness of their hearts. Jesus continued: "Haven't you read that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate" (Matthew 19:4-6).